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Don't date a girl who travels



She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.
Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.
Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.
Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.
Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.
Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.
Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.
She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.
So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.
(Source: one of the blog spots, and the content is copyright of the owner)

Obsessed with this, if anyone knows the author, I would love to know. I thought I'd share it on my blog because I know a lot of girls that will relate to this on some or many levels, including myself... ♥

26 comments:

  1. well, i think we should make some effort to find the author, if she indeed wishes to be so found. yes, a big definitely t'is me too <3 XOXO right on sisters

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  2. https://medium.com/better-humans/802c49b9141c

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  3. So the girl who travels is useless and only cares about herself. Who the hell would want to ever date someone like that. Hopefully any guy contributing to the economy with the expensive watch or new car (by buying those things hes actually helping someone and putting money in their pocket, hence the economy goes 'round) doesn't ever stop to look at the girl staring at the sky not giving a shit about anything but a good instagram from her travels.

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    1. Haha, she is not useless and egoistic. She has a LOT to offer, but this is a lyrics about the negative sides by dating a backpacker girl. If the man really wanted to help "the world", he would have given the extra money away. The point is that the traveling girl doesn't care about the materialistic world, but her focus is elsewhere. I think all travelers are egoistic. I am one myself, egoistic as fuck, because I always travel by my self, leaving people behind, and suck in as much as the world can give me of interesting people, nature, food, cultures and sunsets. Job, money, materialistic focused people, doesn't give me anything. Travel is why I live, and I know I have a lot to give to people around me, but there is a lot of downsides for the A4 man who wishes a traveling girl. If you want a backpacking girl, you must make compromises to have a traveling soul kept yours. And I think all the egoism and downsides will be washed away by the energy, love to the planet and her experiences from her trips, that with time will make her a wise woman over the years.

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    2. Let's flip it shall we. Got a hunch this wouldn't fly with too many women because he sounds like a playa' playa' or an A-hole.
      "Don't Date A Guy Who Travels"
      He’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. His skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on his skin, he has an interesting story to tell.
      Don’t date a guy who travels. He is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of him. His soul craves for new experiences and adventures. He will be unimpressed with your new dress and your expensive shoes. He would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.
      Don’t date a guy who travels because he will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. He wont party at Ibiza. And he will never pay over $100 for renown DJs because he knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.
      Chances are, he can’t hold a steady job. Or he’s probably daydreaming about quitting. He doesn’t want to keep working his ass off for someone else’s dream. He has his own and is working towards it. He is a freelancer. He makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste his time complaining about your boring job.
      Don’t date a guy who travels. He might have wasted his college degree and switched careers entirely. He is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. He’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But he doesn’t work like a robot all day, he goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.
      Don’t date a guy who travels for he has chosen a life of uncertainty. He doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. He goes with the flow and follows his heart. He dances to the beat of his own drum. He doesn’t wear a watch. His days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and he will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But he has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.
      Don’t date a guy who travels as he tends to speak his mind. He will never try to impress your parents or friends. He knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.
      He will never need you. He knows how to decorate his place and keep it clean without your help. He cooks well and doesn’t need to pay for your meals, it's more romantic that way. He is too independent and wont care whether you travel with him or not. He will forget to check in with you when he arrives at his destination. He’s busy living in the present. He talks to strangers. He will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share his passion and dreams. He will be bored with you.
      So never date a guy who travels unless you can keep up with him. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep him. Let him go.

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    3. Thank you for posting this flipped script, Guiselle. Materialistic hedonism and experiential hedonism are two sides of the same thin coin, and it's a difficult personality to fall in love with, regardless of gender. Being carefree and seeking new experiences is a charming way to be when you're young (and it IS important to hold on to a little bit of that openness throughout life,) but it is ultimately selfish, and it becomes less and less charming with the passing of years. When you're young, healthy, physically resilient, and beautiful, many will make room for you at their table. But that doesn't last forever.

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    4. This type of girl is real. Not the shallow tricks one finds in clubs. ME I would be honored to date a girl like this.

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  4. I have a 7-7 job, every weekend I drive up to 12 hours (my limit) to either hike, fish, surf, ski, ect. and appreciate all the things the 'backpacking girl' does. I'm truly blessed to be able to do all of those things. Then during my vacations I team up with various volunteer services to go around the world and help those in need. All while doing these things, I leave no one behind, and I give a lot of love, and compassion. The 'backpacking girl' who doesn't give a shit about anyone willing to love her, is a joke. People can still appreciate all the beautiful and amazing things about this planet and still be able to suppress their selfishness. I feel bad for this girl described in the article, because all of the sunsets and scenery couldn't compare to sharing love with another person. its a euphoria that no picture, I think, will ever be caught. I do respect anything people choose to do as its important to find oneself, I just think there is a whole lot people can do besides bounce from island to island thinking they're doing the world 'good.' the traveling girl can remain lonely.

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  5. I came here to look at that amazing ass

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    1. It is amazing. I'd date her even if she is a travelling girl

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  6. thank you so much for this.
    some people dont understand free spirits.
    but its ok
    we dont mind being misunderstood.

    its not about being selfish
    its about belonging to the world.

    if you cant respect that,its ok.
    the world is bigger than you and me.

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    1. Nicely put' always looking forward to my next adventures!

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  7. She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt and pocked with incipient basal cell carninomas that she can’t afford to get treatment for. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell. But do you really care to listen?

    Don’t date a girl who travels. Since she is narcissistic, she is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her self-centered soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car, your expensive watch, your recent experience saving a life, or anything about you. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you talk about you. Let her jump and you will feel the better for it.

    Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight using your hard-earned money every time there’s an airline seat sale. She won’t party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she can’t do math. She thinks that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week at the Ritz Carlton in Paris or somewhere else far more exciting. She doesn’t believe the numbers you crank out using a calculator to prove she is wrong.

    Chances are, she doesn’t want or can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off to live her own dream -- she wants you to do that for her. She fancies being a freelancer but is, in fact, a freeloader. She dreams of making money from designing, writing, or something that requires creativity, but her only real imagination is devising ways of getting dollars out of your pocket by crying or pleading. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job. She only wants to see the dollars you earn from that job.

    Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor, a yoga teacher, or a street walker. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming or whether she’ll be able to make bail. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what you and others have to offer.

    Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing, it’s couch surfing.

    Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility while being completely irresponsible about her own life and its direction. The irony is lost on her.

    She believes she will never need you but in fact is completely dependent on others. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins but expects you to pick up the bill for her meal, her trip, even her use of the pay toilet in the European town you took her to. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals but cries if you don’t. She sees herself as too independent and won’t care whether you travel with her even if you did pay her way. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers, but not you. The world revolves around her. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams of being total parasites living in a fantasy world of total vacation totally paid for by others. She will be bored with you. It’s all about her, after all.

    So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her demands. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go. For God’s sake, let her go.

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  8. That's not all true wtf.

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  9. Beautifully written! It is an International Citizen's life #internationalcitizen
    This reminds me of many of us who reads more than one page of the book called Life! "The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page". It really meant to say- don't date a girl who travels, unless you are a confident, smart, cultured, world traveler yourself, and you have read the book of life for more than just few pages!
    Live, Love, and Travel!
    Please checkout our facebook fan page International Citizen www.facebook.com/i.ctzn

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  10. Perfect response "Beautifully written", you "get her" because you are like minded, as am I. She doesn't mean to hurt anyone but she has a different calling in life. You have to follow what you believe! She doesn't "not love", she simply has not found her soul mate yet. He's there and she will find him but she refuses to give into what is "not her truth and what and where her heart should go! She's certainly not "all that" either, not at all "above" others. She's just different and anyone who really knows her can celebrate who she is with her! She doesn't sell out for money, or prestige. She doesn't sell out to "anything"! She is THE REAL DEAL! And it's ok that she is confident in that! Travel, as they say, is the biggest bang for your buck! She likes getting the most out of her time and money! I say "carry on"!

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  11. Hmmm.....I did enjoy the article and agreed with a lot but did find it weighing more heavily toward the negative. I just read "date a guy who travels" http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lena-desmond/date-a-boy-who-travels_b_3293815.html# and was astonished at the more positive spin that was given to dating a boy who's lifestyle embodied global experiences.

    Hmm....

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